The Basics of Babywearing
Many caregivers have, in some way or another, heard of
babywearing. They may know someone who does it or have seen someone at the
grocery store doing it. Those people rave about it when you ask them and make
it look so effortless. They’ll go at lengths to tell you how it’s helped them
with a colicky baby, a screaming teething toddler, cuddle a fevered little one,
and given them free hands on those days when babies just want to be held.
They’ll tell you stories about how easy it was to navigate an airport
stroller-free, to bypass the stroller staging spot at Disney World and get
right in line, and how grocery shopping became exponentially easier when you
can wander away from the cart whenever you need to and not worry about a child
toppling out. They will probably recommend you to a local babywearing group (Really?
They have groups for this stuff?! Yes!) or spout off the name of their favorite
Youtube tutorial. They will fervently
tell you that it is absolutely worth it and insist that you give it a try.
You will probably decide to look into it a little, before
you commit to going to a group meeting. You hit the Google Search button and
suddenly what seemed so simple is now a minefield of the most confusing
information. Plenty of how-tos, dos and don’ts, this versus that. Machine
woven. Size 6. Handwoven. 3.2 meters. SSCs. Load bearing straps. Ladder lock
buckles. Double Hammock. Rebozo. Stretchy wraps. Homemade. Ring Slings. Middle
markers. Hip scoot. Superman!!
Isn’t it just
wrapping a giant table cloth around your body and tying your kid to you?!
It seems that way, in the overwhelming wealth of information
that the internet gives you. This may be why that sweet caregiver recommended
the local group. Sometimes, it’s simply easier to understand something physical
from witnessing a simple demonstration in person. There is a wealth of
knowledge out there and local groups that are run by experienced babywearing
parents/grandparents with a vested interest in passing along that knowledge,
along with the love of wearing your baby. Though, it is possible to be
self-taught; there are many great tutorials on Youtube from experienced
caregivers who teach you how to wrap and wear one-on-one, in the comfort of
your own home. If you get nervous
learning new things in front of others, this may be the path for you! Wrap You in Love, Wrapping Rachel, Twice
Loved & Modern, and Babywearing Faith are just a few of the more well-known
names in the how-to Youtube tutorial world.
But before you get to all of that, there are a few terms
that are great to know that will inform you better in the onslaught of
information:
Carrier Types- there are MANY options in the babywearing
world, as far as carriers go. All have varying levels of simplicity and
difficulty, and your choice should solely be based on what you feel the most
comfortable using. I will name only a few, to stay that overwhelming feeling,
and I will list them by ‘Best for Size/Weight’ as they are most known for.
Note: almost all carriers can be used for multiple stages of babywearing, this
is simply a quick reference guide.
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Stretchy Wraps- You see these in practically
every chain store that you walk in to. Moby, K’tan, Happy Baby, Boba, (etc).
These are long lengths of fabric that have a lot of stretch to them, like a
tshirt when you pull on it with both hands. They can be pre-tied before going
out, which can be especially nice when you are first learning and it takes you
30 minutes to get it situated before you leave the house! These types of
carriers are generally inexpensive and are great for the beginning stages of
babywearing with small infants. Many experienced babywearers have found that
once their baby hits about 15lbs that their baby became too heavy for a stretch
wrap and they were on the lookout for another carrier. Though many
manufacturers state that the wraps can be used upwards of 35lbs, many
caregivers find that the stretchy material begins to sag under the weight and
it is difficult keeping the knot safely in place.
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Ring Slings- These can be made from either machine
woven or hand woven wrap material. The former, because it can be mass produced,
will be less expensive than
their handwoven counterparts. These can be used immediately, just as the
stretchy wraps, but unlike the former, they can be used well into the toddler
stages. They consist of less fabric and vary in texture, depending on the
materials used. They will not, however, have the same stretch that the
aforementioned wraps have. They are easy to haul around and comfortable while
wearing. You can find these on many Buy/Sell/Trade groups on Facebook or
directly from companies and manufacturers, such as Marsupial Mamas, Natibaby,
or Tekhni Wovens, to name a few well known places/brands.
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Wraps- here is where things get a little more
technical. Wraps come in varying lengths and fabrics. They also come in an
array of beautiful colorways, patters, and designs. The first rule with buying
a wrap (or anything that you intend to babywear in) is to make sure that it is
aesthetically pleasing to you. It sounds trivial, but it is very important.
After all, you are not likely to wear things that you think are ugly and getting
a great deal on an ugly (to you) wrap is a waste of money if you are not
inclined to wear it after the fact. Secondly, sizes. You will need to figure
out what kind of wrapping you’d like to do. Will you want to go out for long
periods of time in it or just for quick, short trips? If the former, then you
will probably be more comfortable in a longer size. If the latter, then a
shorter size will work well for you. This is where a local group really comes
in handy. They tend to have ‘Libraries’ that have many different sizes of
wraps/carriers that you can test out, to see what will suit your needs best. It
is a great option when you aren’t looking to put forth a lot of money when you
are unsure of what you will like. Also, many of the caregivers in the group are
usually more than happy to let you take their wraps for a test drive! Then
there are fibers. All cotton blends are the most common and easiest to maintain
when it comes to washing instructions. But there are many others- wool or wool
blends, tencel blends, repreve blends, linen and linen blends, cotton and
cotton blends, etc. The list can go on, each with their own advantages and
disadvantages, depending on your criteria (what is easiest to wash? What sells
quickly? Would I want to get this wet or muddy? Etc.) Starting out with 100%
cotton is usually the best way to go for anyone beginning their wrapping
journey and wanting to make sure that wrapping is the right choice for them and
their little one.
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Mei Tai- This type of carrier has the adaptability
of a wrap but with a panel and hip belt structure like a soft structured carrier
(SSC). It tends to lift the child higher on the back, versus the low sitting
backpack style of an SSC. It is also a great option for expecting moms, as it
can easily be tied off above the belly, taking pressure away from the pelvis. A
very simple version can be bought from some stores such as the Infantino brand
from Target, or fancier ones such as the Fidella Fly Tai can be purchased
off-line or from local boutiques.
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Soft Structured Carriers (SSCs)- These are
probably the most well-known type of carrier on the market today. You can walk
into Target, Buy Buy Baby, and Babies R Us and walk out with a ‘clip carrier’.
They resemble an odd backpack full of webbing, buckles, and fabric that may
seem at once more familiar and comforting than anything else on the list. After
all, who didn’t carry a backpack at one point in their lives? All of these come
with instruction manuals and very easy to use. Any “store line” brands such as Ergo
and Boba are a great value buy and both are sturdy enough to last through
multiple children. They do not, however, hold a resale value and you can
usually find them on sale for half of their new-in-package price on a
Buy/Sale/Trade group, on Craigslist, or at local garage sales. There are other
companies that fall into ‘high end’ carriers, such as Tula and Jublii, that are
going to cost a little more and can usually sell later for a market value
higher than the purchase price! Whichever brand of SSC that you get, they are
easy to adjust for anyone in the family to help out wearing your little one.
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“Other” carriers- there are other types of
carriers that are not quite as well-known but are equally loved and amazing.
Onbus, podaegis, and even a muslin blanket can be used for babywearing! Once
you dive in, finding different styles, fabrics, and prints (etc) can become
very addicting!!
While this is not
an all-inclusive list of ‘whats’ or ‘how-tos’, it is at the very least a
starting point for anyone mildly interested in giving babywearing a try. It can
be fun and discouraging, highly entertaining and sweat inducing, and at the end
of the day you can look back on your adventures with wonder, remembering those
little neck hugs from behind and watching that little face snuggled against
your chest fast asleep. It is an experience that can be born out of convenience
or a suggestion for helping a NICU preemie thrive (known as Kangaroo Care).
There are many reasons for why, just as there are many types of carrier and the
ways that they can be worn. Whatever your reason and however you choose to
carry, the experience will bring you your own stories and you may just find
yourself telling another caregiver about it at the grocery store. J
It got super chilly suddenly here and so it is time to baby wear safely for cold weather! I know it has been on my mind lately and I hope yours, as well!
Think cute hats, little mittens or socks, little socks and booties for feet! Adult gloves or socks work well too! 
